What I Love About You….Our Happily Even-After

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     I truly felt like a love-stricken teenager at heart as I taped each envelope on the door to surprise my sweet husband.  This was only our second Valentine’s Day together as husband and wife but felt even more significant than our first. Why? Not sure! But I think it may have to do with the fact that I feel like I fall in love with him more everyday! Yes, it’s true!

As I purposely wrote each thought my heart was overwhelmed by God’s abundant faithfulness and amazing grace.

You see, Just a few years ago I really didn’t think I could entrust my heart to anyone in marriage again. The risk seemed way too high for this messy girl.  From my past experiences, love to me was painful and it meant to live sacrificially broken with unrelenting heart wounds for the sake of another…..because that’s what Jesus-loving girls do, right!??? (Not!! That was simply WRONG thinking! Blog post or maybe I should say “rant” coming soon, ha!) Unfortunately, just when hope of change was sparked and healing was in sight the messiness would come again and again….and again. So the story goes. 

But God….

When I first met Chris, even though I was undeniably drawn to him, my fears told me to run and I listened…ha! I was understandably scared and with a determined  stance, I stuck a  “closed” sign tightly over my heart.  But thankfully, with much prayer and wrestling AND the support of my dear mentors and friends the story didn’t end there! Chris respectfully, patiently and gently continued the pursuit and the rest is our happily-even-after!!! 

Even after….. 

Even after we both had made our share of mistakes. Even after we both had hidden scars from our messy and broken past. Even after we both had experienced the tearing apart of significant relationships. All because our God is the God of the “even after”! Our God is so so good!! He truly does bring beauty from ashes!

The words I wrote on each note were a reflection of my heart being able to experience…for the first time ever, the love that was meant to be shared between a husband and a wife! It’s altogether beautiful and I can say that I am truly thankful for the lessons learned from our “before” scars that have brought us to our “even after” story today. 

Friend, whatever your gut-wrenching story looks like today, it’s not over! In Christ, it is only a chapter, a season, and a tool to propel you towards your God-ordained, God-weaved, God-blessed and God-planned destiny! YOUR happily even-after story is coming! Believe it! 

Romans 8:28  And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.

New Year, New You!

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Sometimes, in the midst of the chaos, the challenges, the tears, and the disappointments of life, we can lose sight of who we are and more importantly, whose we are.
As we begin this new year, can I remind you that you are so very precious! No matter what you have been through, no matter what you are dealing with at this very moment…..God loves YOU! You are HIS beloved, beautiful daughter. Believe it, my dear sister.  This means you do not have to rely on your husband, your mom, your dad, or your best friend to validate who you are.  Christ has already done that!  His love letter to you declares that you are dearly loved (Eph 5:1).  He has clothed you in strength and dignity (Proverbs 31:25).  You wear His robe of righteousness (Is 61:10). You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Your worth is far more than that of rubies.  (Prov 31:10)
The enemy of our souls wants us to believe the lies that we have spoken about ourselves or that others have spoken over us so that we will not fulfill the purposes God has for us.  He is out to completely destroy our influence upon the Kingdom of God. We need to train our ears to hear the Spirit of God more than the voice of the enemy or even our own.
My dear sister, don’t waste another moment, another year, allowing the enemy to keep you from your GOD given destiny.  Expose the lies that you have believed and replace them with God’s TRUTH.
Your worth is NOT based on what others think of you, on what your husband does or doesn’t do.  Your value, worth, and identity is based on GOD’s TRUTH.
Instead of New Year’s resolutions, what is that ONE thing that you can focus on that can revolutionize your daily walk? I believe it starts with  a revelation knowledge of how very much God loves you! This knowledge must get from your head to your heart. Once that is settled, your relationship with Jesus will deepen…you will face every situation with an underlying peace that God is in control.  You will be confident  that no matter what happens, Your Father God is with you and will turn ALL things together for good.  Your beauty will be that of a woman full of God’s Glory and grace.  You will love others with the love that He has given you. His light in you will cast away the shadows that may surround others that God places in your path.
I pray that as daughters of the KING of KINGS,  we will be so deeply secure in His love that NOTHING will move us.
Girlfriends, let’s take back our God given strength and dignity that the enemy has stolen and move forward  into the plans and purposes that God has for each one of us.
Blessings to you, beautiful one, in 2018!